Let's Go - 1:1 Coaching

Increase your and your child's ability to navigate overwhelming emotions in the next 8 weeks 

without shaming, dismissing, or controlling your child


If you’re a parent looking to help your child manage BIG emotions, then you know how hard this challenge can be in family life.


You might be feeling unsure about how to support your child in expressing their feelings and making sure they feel heard. It's frustrating when the things you've tried so far haven't worked, and you worry that whatever you do might invalidate their emotions or even hurt them emotionally.


And let's be real, dealing with those never-ending emotional outbursts, the yelling, screaming, crying and tears, constant worries, and more can really wear you down. Sometimes, we question our parenting skills and struggle with our own emotions in the process. Many families like this start to lose hope that things will ever change. But deep down, we all crave a positive shift in family life.

If this describes you, then you’re in the right place.  The time-tested, faith-affirming, and practical tools, strategies, and resources you will find inside this course along with the opportunities for community and personal coaching are the answer to many of your questions and roadblocks in family life.  Get ready for some “Ah-ha!” moments and breakthroughs in relationships in your family as I show you how to parent the hearts of your kids like Jesus wants you to and get the results you only dream of now.

By the end of this course, you will ...

  • Gain clarity on developing positive relationships and cooperation and implement specific routines in family life that improve both while using a heart-based approach 
    You’ll know exactly where to target your parenting and how to use the 7 Tools God has given us so you see results at a heart level
  • Develop the skills necessary to implement the 3-step process for correction that is modeled around how God responds to us when we get off track
    You’ll learn how to respond with relationship and firmness rather than react with harshness and emotions when your child does not cooperate and understand how to not just get your child back on track but to do so positively.
  • Know how to still be connecting with your child even while correcting your child
    You’ll learn how to remain peaceful while correcting and practical strategies to use to support your child who may be struggling with BIG emotions in the midst of being off track. 
  • Build capacity in you and your child to handle overwhelming emotions while maintaining a flexible posture in your parenting that provides space for your child's voice and balances it with respect
    You’ll learn how to be flexible in your parenting that in ways that allow room for your child's voice and provide opportunities for redos, choices, and options while still communicating the important of cooperation to your child.
  • Know what emotions are, how they affect the heart, and how God wants to use them in your child's life
    You’ll learn how to help your child identify, understand, and manage emotions such as anger, anxiety, sadness, and more sot hat they can successfully navigate challenging situations in everyday life.
  • Develop the ability to coach your child so you can support them in managing BIG emotions with personalized plans for success
    You’ll know the right way to help your child before, during, and after a BIG emotion occurs; how to support your child as a coach rather than a referee; and how to help your child make a personalized plan for success and move forward with it.
  • Gain specific strategies for addressing resistance in your child's heart
    You’ll know the common parenting pitfalls that many parents struggle with when their child reacts negatively to being told "No" AND you know how to avoid those pitfalls using other strategies that help change how your child responds in the future.
  • Start having family night devotions that are interactive and fun for the whole family while also being biblically-based and teaching your family important lessons about emotions
    You’ll have 8 family night lessons that will help you grow closer as a family and communicate important ideas, concepts, and skills you are learning in this course to your child so you can see change that lasts in family life.

"B.J.’s insight into the heart of a child is remarkable. His ability to advise parents demonstrates his command of God’s Word and discernment in a way that empowers parents to bring about change in their children in a short amount of time. All parents would benefit from anything he writes or teaches."

Dr. Scott Turansky, Co-founder of the National Center for Biblical Parenting

Here’s what you’re getting when you enroll today:

The Conquering BIG Emotions Blueprint

  • 8 Modules filled with time-tested, faith-affirming, practical parenting tools and strategies
  • Private Facebook Group Community
  • Get Your Kids to Listen ... and Know What to Do When They Don't mini-course
  • The Conquering BIG Emotions Parent Field Guide
  • PLUS a Group Coaching option to help ensure you start seeing positive changes in your child and family life 



"B.J. understands how real life and real kids operate and helps us practically solve our very daunting parenting problems.  He has given us a structure and language to use with our very challenging ADHD son and other neurotypical children that we can really get behind and practice."

- Phil and Laura, parent coaching clients

"B.J. was a timely grace from God for our family.  Our home has become much more peaceful and loving.  B.J. is a master teacher who coaches parents how to partner with God in raising their children to be faithful disciples today and tomorrow."

- John and Becky, parent coaching clients

"We have had MUCH fewer really, really "tough moments" which I am so thankful to the Lord for and give Him thanks!!! We still have those tough times but they happen once every couple of days to a week compared to several times a day! Praise Jesus! "

- Ryan and Val, parent coaching clients

What's Inside The Conquering BIG Emotions Blueprint

Module 1

Relationship Increases Cooperation

Module 1 is all about relationship.  When Jesus looks to help us change, He does it through relationship.  So this is where we start when working with our children as well.  In this module, you will work on building routines that strengthen relationship and develop more cooperation between you and your child.  Cooperation increases when both parents and children are willing to change. 

Module Highlights:

During this module, you will:

  • Learn what's happening inside the heart and conscience and how to use a heart-based approach to parenting to affect change in the life of your child
  • Introduce and practice an instruction routine that focuses on key heart qualities for building cooperation between you and your child
  • Take action on increasing positive relationship investments with your child
Module 2

Helping Your Child Get Back on Track

After working on cooperation in Module 1, Module 2 answers the next natural question, "But what do I do if my child doesn't want to cooperate?"  Every family needs a plan to help get children back on track when they struggle with cooperating.  Too often, parents don't know how to respond because they don't have a plan.  Instead parents tend to simply react to each situation without an overarching goal for heart development in their child.  This module will change that for you as you learn a 3 Step Process for responding when your child gets off track.


Module Highlights:

During this module, you will:

  • Understand how heart change works and the 3-step process for correction
  • Learn how to start by using words and offering opportunities for kids to try again
  • Develop a routine for helping your child calm down when emotions start to rise so they can stop, have a change of heart, and develop a plan for the future
  • Help your child move forward through the process so you can end discipline times constructively and positively
  • Know how and when to use consequences to help further deepen heart change in your child
Module 3

Even When We're Correcting, We're Connecting

Helping your child get back on track can be very challenging, and so Module 3 allows you time to dive deeper into the concepts of Module 2  while adding on some important reminders and new skills.  If we want to truly see heart change in our children, then we must genuinely work with our children during challenging times like Jesus works with us.  This means that we maintain relationship.  It means we model what we expect in terms of our own emotional regulation.  It means we look to develop routines in the correction process that focus on making plans for success for the future rather than dwelling on past mistakes and struggles.

Module Highlights:

During this module, you will:

  • Revisit the positive conclusion routine for how to end discipline times effectively and positively
  • Develop additional strategies to help your child with big emotions
  • Create a plan for what to do when you struggle with emotions
  • Introduce the concept of Honor to your child and create opportunities to strengthen relationship through Honor
Module 4

Working Through BIG Emotions

Module 4 focuses on understanding emotions: what they are, why God gave them to us, and how they impact the heart and body.  Three big emotions many children struggle with are anger, anxiety, and sadness.  We will talk about what these are and some Biblical solutions to each of them.  This module is designed to develop a deeper understanding of emotions in parents so that you can better empathize with and develop strategies for your child's challenges of managing big emotions. 

Module Highlights:

During this module, you will:

  • Learn what emotions are, why we have them, and how to impact the heart
  • Develop strategies for helping your child with the big three emotions of anger, anxiety, and sadness
  • Create a plan for how understanding your child's emotions may impact routines and relationships in family life
Module 5

Developing Personalized Plans for Success

Our children tend to have specific situations and challenges where they struggle with specific emotions.  They need our leadership and partnership in helping them develop personalized plans for success for when these situations arise.  Our children also need help practicing and revising these plans since it usually takes several plans to finally find the one that works for our child.  It's like going on a treasure hunt.  The keys to finding success though are sticking with it and inviting Jesus into the process. 

Module Highlights:

During this module, you will:

  • Learn how to come alongside your child to support them in facing specific situations and challenges
  • Choose one challenge or situation where your child struggles with emotions
  • Meet with your child to create a plan for success that includes a variety of strategies
  • Teach your child specific skills needed to make the plan a success
  • Partner with your child to act on the plan when challenges arise
  • Offer feedback and coaching along the way
Module 6

Giving Voice and Resolving Problems

While giving children voice is woven into the tools and strategies you find throughout this course, Module 6 specifically focuses on how to appropriately provide a space for your child's voice and develop a flexible stance in parenting.  This module also focuses on what Jesus calls us to do when we struggle with our own emotions or make a mistake in our parenting.   

Module Highlights:

During this module, you will:

  • Recognize that there are lots of good ways to parent and that specific parenting situations may have multiple good options for how to handle them
  • Develop skills in providing space for your child's voice, offering choices appropriately, and maintaining a flexible stance in parenting
  • Commit to parenting with integrity by learning how to apologize and seek forgiveness when you make mistakes in your parenting 
Module 7

Addressing Resistance

Module 7 addresses how to handle resistance in your child's heart.  Sometimes a child is resistant to change .  Other times, a child can struggle when they need to be told "No".  These are often very challenging moments in family life.  They can really wear a parent down if they crop up often and are met with big emotions from the child.  But there are some important tools and responses we can develop that over the long term will bring a better response and lasting change.

Module Highlights:

During this module, you will:

  • Learn why limits and boundaries are important to heart development
  • Avoid specific parenting pitfalls when your child struggles with resistance
  • Practice specific strategies for if your child struggles with emotions when they are told "No"
Module 8

Working Towards Long Term Success

Long term success requires  a long term commitment to change.  Module 8 focuses on celebrating successes, making found solutions a part of the new norm, and continuing the process of change in our children and ourselves.   

Module Highlights:

During this module, you will:

  • Understand how to build internal motivation using everyday interactions in family life
  • Begin developing character in your child using cues to signal your child's conscience
  • Develop ongoing reflective parenting habits and practices that allow you to identify and resolve parenting triggers as well as continuing challenges for your child and plans for success

Here's what you get when you enroll today:


The Conquering BIG Emotions Blueprint 

  • 8 Modules Packed with Practical Heart-based Parenting Tools That Actually Work

    Follow B.J. as he leads you step-by-step through the practical heart-based tools and strategies that you can start implementing right away so you can see change that lasts because you're targeting your parenting on the heart work your child need

  • Strengthen Relationships and Cooperation in Family Life 

    Learn how to build closeness with your child and implement a simple instruction routine that develops cooperation, responsiveness, responsibility, thoroughness, and accountability in the heart of your child
  • Know How to Touch Your Child's Heart with a Correction  Plan That Works

    Develop a 3-step response for when your child needs correction that provides them with opportunities to correct behavior, finds ways to help your child manage emotions, ends discipline times in positive and constructive ways, and helps you know how and when to use consequences 
  • Build Capacity in Yourself and Your Child to Handle BIG Emotions and Develop Plans for Success for the Future

    Learn what emotions are, how they work with the heart, and God's plan for how to use them in life so that you can develop personalized, strategic plans for success with your child to tackle challenging situations that they face in everyday life 
  • Learn How to Adapt Everything to Meet Your Child's Unique Needs

    Explore how you can adapt the tools and strategies you learn to meet the unique needs and challenges facing  your child so you can support your child the way they need while pointing them to Jesus in their daily interactions

Plus These Bonuses to Help You

Connect with Others and Stay on the Track

to Experience Success

Bonus 1

Private Facebook Group Community

The best learning happens in community where we can work together and support each other.  Our private Facebook group helps you meet other Christian families enrolled in the course.  They’re going through the same content as you are and learning the same tools and strategies as you are.  They’re facing some of the same challenges in their family, too, and we’ll all go so much further when we work together and support each other.  Also, each week, B.J. hosts a live bonus teaching session for everyone.  Don’t worry if you can’t make it live because all sessions are recorded.

What You’ll Get:

  • Connect with other families going through the course
  • Post success stories and encouraged by others' success stories as well
  • Ask your questions and pray for others' challenges
  • Work together as you implement the tools and strategies you are learning
  • Participate in weekly live sessions with B.J. (recorded as well)
Module 2

Get Your Kids to Listen … and Know What to Do When They Don’t mini-course

When working on the heart of a child, it is helpful to start with some foundational family cycles that all families need to have in place.  Families need some routines and rituals as they relate to getting things done and what to do when life gets off track.  When these two cycles are established in family life, they help soften the heart of a child to the working of the Holy Spirit in many areas of life so we can see change that lasts.

What You’ll Get:

  • Complete access to the Get Your Kids to Listen … and Know What to When They Don’t mini-course
  • Printable notes guide
  • All related support documents for working with your children
Bonus 3

The Conquering BIG Emotions Parent Field Guide 

This course is a journey: for you, your child, and your family.  This parent field guide offers you devotions focused on the content of the course, a place to journal your experiences on this journey, inspirational success stories from other parents who have traveled this journey before, and weekly directions to have your own family night that encourages your whole family to grow closer to Jesus and each other.

What You’ll Get:

  • Complete printable of The Conquering BIG Emotions Parent Field Guide 
  • Directions for fun and interactive weekly family night devotions for each week of the course
  • Parent devotional and journal that aligns with the content of each week

Here’s what you’re getting when you enroll today:

The Conquering BIG Emotions Blueprint

  • 8 Modules filled with time-tested, faith-affirming, practical parenting tools and strategies
  • Private Facebook Group Community
  • Get Your Kids to Listen ... and Know What to Do When They Don't mini-course
  • The Conquering BIG Emotions Parent Field Guide
  • PLUS a Group Coaching option to help ensure you start seeing positive changes in your child and family life

30 Day Money Back Guarantee

I am very confident in the modules and resources I have here for you and know you will see results when you put what you learn into action with your children and family because I’ve seen it work.

If you complete each module each week of the course in the first 30 days including working with your children and you don't see some change in you and/or your children, then bring me your work to review for a full refund.  

Your “work” includes:

  • Your progress watching videos in the online course (which I can just check on my end of the computer) 
  • Your notes made on the pdfs from the course that you print out and use each week
  • Our conversation about your homework (i.e. families nights, meetings with children, etc.)  

If after that it is evident that you put in the work and just did not see results, I will issue you a full refund.

But that’s not what I am expecting for your family. 

Instead, I’m expecting that if you genuinely give your best to Jesus in this course, He will be faithful and you’ll see changes like this take place:

  • Parents shifting their parenting approach and feeling more empowered with the tools they need to address challenges in family life
  • Parents and children embracing concepts like cooperation with both parents and children getting better at giving and receiving instructions
  • Children trying out the tools and strategies they learn from their parents (either with the help of a parent or even independently)
  • Parents having a plan for how to respond when a child is getting off track in their behavior

Change does not happen overnight, but in those first 30 days, you will see some of this take place.  After that, if you continue implementing what you learned, you’ll continue seeing these positive results and more.

If for any reason you have a question or are unsatisfied during the course, then please let me know.  I'm your biggest champion and don't take my role as your coach through this process lightly.  I want you and your family to succeed!

Email me at [email protected] for anything you need.

Frequently Asked Questions

Here are some questions others are asking before enrolling in The Conquering BIG Emotions Blueprint

Here’s what you’re getting when you enroll today:

The Conquering BIG Emotions Blueprint

  • 8 Modules filled with time-tested, faith-affirming, practical parenting tools and strategies 
  • Private Facebook Group Community
  • Get Your Kids to Listen ... and Know What to Do When They Don't mini-course
  • The Conquering BIG Emotions Parent Field Guide
  • PLUS a Group Coaching option to help ensure you start seeing positive changes in your child and family life 



"Parenting from a heart-based approach is a wonderful concept but it takes intentionality and knowledge ... so the coaching helped to know what that practically looked like day to day with my kids.  I learned a lot about helping my kids regulate their own emotions and to encourage self-regulation in how I parented."


- Biblical Parenting Coaching Client

I have learned a lot in the 8 weeks of coaching but one thing that sticks out in my mind is the effect of emotions. I realized that way too often I was pulled into the arena.  My daughter responds more positively in our "tough moments" when I am under control and not acting out of an emotional response. I also find our family is more effective at communicating, both ways now.

- Biblical Parenting Coaching Client

"We saw more emotional regulation from our daughter, and she is challenging herself to be proactive with her emotions.  There is improvement, and God is truly working.  We also learned that different strategies help each child to grow in character.  B.J. helped us navigate different approaches and to also accept God's grace in this process."


 Biblical Parenting Coaching Client

Still thinking about it?


The Conquering BIG Emotions Blueprint 

is PERFECT for you if…

  1. You have a young family with at least one child who is struggling with big emotions and you want practical solutions now that also lay a great foundation for the future with all of your children
  2. You have a couple of children already and find yourself walking on eggshells around at least one of them because you're afraid you're going to "set them off" and have yet another meltdown
  3. You have a child who struggles with big emotions like anger, anxiety, or sadness and you'd like some  practical parenting solutions that are not a replacement for professional therapy if needed but certainly do compliment it well and empower your child with tools and skills for success in handling the challenges of everyday life
  4. You have a family that includes a tween and/or teen who seems to react emotionally and struggles to connect to your family lately
  5. You want to support your child in expressing their emotions in a healthy, helpful way that that gives your child a voice while also teaching them the way  to do so with peace and respect father than in their current destructive, hurtful ways that are damaging relationships and undermining their success 
  6. You find yourself wondering if maybe you're doing something wrong, if everyone else has children who react with such strong emotions, and if there really is any way to parent this child ... and you may even feel a little guilty for thinking that
  7. You’re tired of the conflicting messages coming from parenting books, blogs, videos, and podcasts and just want to know the best, time-tested, and most practical tools and strategies that align with your faith and not only address your child's behavior but their heart as well
  8. You find yourself struggling with your own emotions as a parent and feel guilty for failing to model what you say you expect and you're unsure how to move forward and change the momentum in your relationship with your child but you deeply desire to do so
  9. You’d like to have personalized support when implementing new parenting tools and strategies in your family so they are tailored to fit your and your child's needs and you know you are doing it right
  10. You want to go from feeling overwhelmed , tired, frustrated, and outnumbered to empowered, focused, positive, and effective in your parenting
  11. You are a natural learner and hard worker who is willing to put in the work and effort of putting the tools and routines into place to build the family your have always dreamed of

I can’t wait for you to join! 

If you made it this far down this webpage, then I know you want the real deal.  You don’t want to waste time with another set of parenting tips and ideas that sound great on paper but don’t work in your family when you try them out.  

After many years using the principles, tools, and strategies of a heart-based approach to parenting with my own 8 children, I can honestly say that this stuff works!  And I haven’t just seen it with my own children.  I’ve seen it with other families (just like yours) as I’ve worked with them as a Biblical parenting coach and presenter.  

I’ve gotten to see family after family come to me feeling overwhelmed and defeated and then watch Jesus demonstrate His faithfulness.  I worked with these families, and over time we saw true transformation in their children and families.  

Yes, it meant putting in some hard work and time up front, and yes, families working with children who have BIG emotions have tended to find it takes a bit longer to see lasting change, but after 8 weeks these parents have a stronger relationships with their children, some positive momentum in family life, and a whole host of heart-based parenting tools to continue using.  Best of all, these families have one other thing that keeps them moving in the right direction: restored hope.

Remember, there’s a 30 Day Money Back Guarantee, though I don’t see you needing that since I know you’re a person who genuinely wants to see Jesus do some awesome things in and through your family.  

So when you’re ready, click that enroll button and join me.

All my best,